I would like to share some myths and also some facts about grieving. There is no wrong or correct way to handling grief.
Myth: When you ignore it,the pain will go away faster. Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keeping it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For a complete healing, it is necessary to face your pain and deal with it.
Myth: You need to be strong in the period of loss. Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, empty or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
Myth: If you do not cry, then you aren’t sorry about the loss. Fact: Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it. Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one.
Myth: Grieving should last about a year. Fact: There is no specific time frame for grieving. How long it takes differs from person to person.
Myth: Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss. Fact: Moving on means you’ve accepted your loss. You can move on with your life and keep the memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you. In fact, as we move through life, these memories can become more and more integral to defining the people we are.
What other myths have you heard about grief please share.
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So today I got thinking of the many goals I had made and didn’t achieve. And discovered that just like me, there also a lot of people who at some points in their lives have also had one goal or the other they’re yet to achieve. This brings me to a conclusion that we all share the same problems no matter how hard we try to deny it. We should also know that problems are forever and we can’t avoid them. You’ll wake up tomorrow and have problems with your toaster. You’ll jump on the bus and read a problem in your email inbox. You’ll get to work and get a problem smack bang in your pretty face! The interesting thing is all these typical problems we face can actually be solved. One of these typical problem is not reaching your goal. Just because you set a goal, doesn’t mean you’re going to get it…Yeah. Many of life’s toughest goals take lots of trials before they can be achieved. Some of the goals I missed are:
• Guys I wanted to date
• Dream career
• Saving enough money to build a house in my hometown
Even people who talk about success and about personal development, don’t also reach their goals. The best feeling about reaching a goal is the journey it took for you to get there. If all your goals are easy, then you’d feel nothing at the end of the process.
Solution: Take that goal you didn’t achieve and try a different approach. When you do the same thing over and over to achieve your goal that is the beginning of insanity. Your heroes also miss their goals too, but what makes them stand out is that they didn’t give up. The fun of goal-setting is knowing that you’ll fail and being ready to try again.
The idea of saving is fantastic, fun and even beneficial.As a matter of fact it is crucial for one to save. But the issue is as good as it sounds, it isn’t easy to carry out. For me saving was a very big issue. Yes it has a lot of benefits and all, but I found it very difficult to put out little bits of my money. The idea of keeping out a specific amount of money daily, weekly or even monthly was very difficult and required patience, and determination which at a point was lacking 😒.Most times once I decide to put out a specific amount of money, that’s when a problem will arise and I’ll be forced to postponed saving or terminate the idea entirely. Though it hasn’t been easy but I have been able to start saving through these few steps : 1. Just do it: I have come to learn that if you really want to save, you just have to do IT even if it seems like there are other pressing and important needs.Just know that saving is also important. 2. Set a goal: Another thing that has helped me in saving is having a goal. As little as it may sound, having a goal will not only propel you, but it will energize and motivate you to save. Example: I want to achieve this by this time, this is what I want .. 3. Have a laid down plan: After setting up your goal, make a plan on how to achieve this goal. It may be daily or maybe weekly, or you can decide monthly which ever works for you. But make sure your plan is plain and easy to achieve. 4. Be accountable: As cliche as this may sound, being accountable is one way to achieve your goals. So yeah be accountable to someone it’s important. With these four steps I think you’ll be saving in no time just as I was able to. Remember start small and then make progress as you go..
Drop all your thoughts,contribution and also share some of the issues you’ve faced in the course of saving in the comment section.
Hi and welcome to my blog. I am Sharon Chinedum and a student. I love black,and the smell of rain on the soil ☺️
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